Parenting After Parting
Research tells us that there are crucial things we should do (and avoid doing) if we are to get our children through this crisis in good shape.
Over the years, tips and tricks have been developed that may well enable us to manage this transition really pretty well. However, with so many things going on between us as adults, it is hardly surprising that too often parents do not make it into this zone and their children’s needs are managed less well than they could be.
Family Law in Partnership has been at the forefront of a national campaign “Parenting After Parting”, adopted by the 5,500 strong family lawyers group, Resolution, which aims to provide the resources that parents can use at this time.
Our experience as lawyers and mediators has been that all of the other issues (such as housing, finance, maintenance and so on) become so much easier to resolve when there is an early focus on the needs of children.
There is a booklet containing the basic information (available free for clients or downloadable from the Resolution website). However, booklets can only go so far. What clients are telling us is that the informational sessions that have now been launched are what really made the difference for them.
These sessions are run in groups of usually upwards of a dozen parents by experienced therapists who are trained in providing information in a helpful and accessible way. Those attending can be as involved in the session as they like. Some prefer to rather sit in the background, whilst others relish the opportunity of hearing from those in similar situations – and more particularly, from those in the mirror situation. Thought needs to be given as to whether to attend with the children’s other parent or not – there are benefits of each approach. This can be discussed by making contact with our administrator Wendy Hoare (email: firstname.lastname@example.org or tel: 020 7420 5000) who can put you in touch with our presenters.
The sessions cover issues such as what to say to children about separation and divorce, how children can be affected when parents split up, how to help children to manage grief and loss constructively and how to establish a parenting relationship with your ex.
Attendance at the sessions is free for clients of Family Law in Partnership – for others there is a charge of £96 including VAT. Our next Parenting After Parting workshop will take place over two evenings on Thursday 6th June and Thursday 13th June 2013. Please contact Wendy Hoare to book a place on the workshop.
For more information about the scheme in general, go to:
Further work can also be undertaken with our counsellors/therapists, Dominic Raeside and Ruth Smallacombe on an individual, couple or family basis. For example they can work with you on issues such as:
Comments from people who have attended workshops include:
"It reinforced my belief that the child comes first”
"Every parent should be required to attend one of these"